History Fights? : Silence is Golden!

History, past and old stories: it’s a bane and a boon. Words are not enough to express how much past effect the present when the events are narrated out of spite or to win a situation by a person who is malevolent over an argument and whose ego is hurt momentarily. The age-old wisdom of never to bring up the past to win a situation is very true and tested through centuries. It may be just a minute’s satisfaction to get an up on somebody but it destroys trust, it brings about violence and pent up anger & hurt. When the past opens up, it has nothing but old wrongs which are long been compensated, old habits which have long been conquered, and old defeats which has been turned into wins, yet when someone uses that past to get back at you in the present, it’s like opening the Pandora’s box and bringing old pain into the healed wounds.

Never repeat the dead issues or shortcomings of someone whom you love, because at that instant you lose all the respect and all the trust. It is never wise to tell another person’s secret when you fight with them into the open just to spite them. It is a loser attitude and would mean blackmail of a different sort which kills love in any relationship. Never clean your laundry in public and your personal problems or family troubles or secrets out into the open for everybody to hear. No one would side with you for betraying confidence and tarnishing character or laud you for your big mouth which gossips, instead you would be ridiculed for your bad up bringing or will be distrusted by all.

Gossip is yet another evil, which destroys reputations, maligns character, and breaks good relations. It is the root evil that women as well as men should try to conquer. It’s not respectable of a woman or man with class or good up bringing to discuss someone else’s issues or judge, adding new exaggerated information to some passover gossip making it turn into avalanche proportions attacking someone else’s life and in the process killing a person with words. I would rather not have a conversation than to slander someone else . It is better to be silent than speak nonsense and things of no consequence about a person who has the right to be not judged before being known.

There is a lot of wisdom in the old sayings; they have not been passed over for centuries for nothing. One should respect age and experience, both of which gives wisdom to conduct a life which is morally right, induced with values and principles that gives one the direction it needs instead of the ambiguity of heading off into different directions with no peace and goal. The ancient wisdom says “silence is golden” and when it comes to engaging in slander gossip it’s a much-needed wisdom to adhere to the Golden silence.