An Equation of change for a relationship! Can you solve it, is it a constant, can it be changed?
Sometimes you change the equation of a relationship just because a person means more to you than the kind of relationship you share. You feel as long as the person is in your life, that’s all that matters because at the end of the road you want your life to mean something with people in it whom you loved once and shared happy moments in along the journey. Does it matter that the relationship is changed, broken or that we have moved on to someone else? We should rather treasure the person we have been with,, who has touched our life in a special way at some point. That person may or may not become your good friend, it may or may not be fair on the other person who shares your ex’s life or yours. There can be a peaceful existence when we draw a line to these relationships from the past. Yet where do we draw the line? There is a possibility of an underlying emotion with ulterior motive or possibility of a beautiful friendship. Sometimes it is not right to keep that person in your life and sometimes it is unnecessary to block that person.
There are two categories of people in this particular situation. For some of us we have it in us to think morally, controlling impulses, and doing the right thing by drawing line where it matters to balance your life and to keep the person you are seeing secure & being true to yourself. One can never have a beautiful relationship by betraying a friend, your lover or your conscience. Love doesn’t hurt another; if it does it would never last. All great love stories didn’t become eternal with malice I think.
The next category are those who think dating your ex gf / bf’s best friend or friend is all right because this person is the love of your life. These dudes & dudettes are completely disillusioned about love, or equation change. They shouldn’t try to be friendly with their ex ever coz they can’t handle the emotional overdrive as the ones who think it’s wrong to betray a friend over a lover.
For this particular genre of people the old classic way of stop contact and block holds for a better-uncomplicated life. For, this kind of person everything gets mixed up and they end up doing what they feel than what is the right thing to do morally when those emotions kept in check suddenly starts playing havoc and thinking power gets screwed up to the extent of bending the given equation to one’s own advantage. That’s when suddenly everything is thrown upto the heavens and one justifies by thinking maybe destiny was leading to this one point all the time and you have been just cooking up equations to just stay close to a person you loved and never really knew you really loved all the while.
In the modern age of fast communication and a smaller world with everyone knowing everyone, has relationships changed too? Gone are the days where one cuts the other person off because you have stopped seeing each other, and that means both ways of seeing each other (physical presence as well as emotional gear change) .I feel it’s a healthy practice to become friends as long as you know who you really are and which category you fall under.
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