Beauty or Personality ?

It’s easier to love a beautiful person with love at first glance than to love a beautiful personality, which doesn’t happen at one glance but with repeatedly meeting and sharing. Are you the love at first sight kind or love slow kind?

You can test this by finding out what is it that attracts you in a movie. This is the best possible test that can give you a fast answer than to actually introspect so much that it hurts ur head and all those relationships you get engaged in. Ask yourself “Do I love the beauty or the personality of a character in this movie?” Your answer determines in which areas of your life you have to work on. Life is a movie too in some ways; it just has too many casts, too many plots and is way longer in terms of time period, way longer than the flicks of Karon Johar.

A personality is the person: a whole lifetime of hard work to make the choices worthwhile, that you who is conveyed through a letter, a face book wall, an orkut page, a blog, a voice on the phone, a friend, a soothsayer, an understanding human, a sensitive to other kind of person, a hobby, a kind word, a way of living, a person who is innately good. Beauty fades away slowly with the youth. Some contexts define beauty as that which is mysterious, hidden partially, and the beauty that which you see every day loses its mystery and the royalty fades off. A good-looking person with a striking personality is a gift, yet when youth passes only the personality remains and if you love that more in your better half, then you are a lucky person to have known real love. Somehow that’s how friends stay longer next to you happy than a life partner sometimes.

One might wonder as to how a pleasing personality is made. There is no time tested formulae that tells when a person has settled down with fulfilling thoughts. I feel every one has been given a 6th or 7th sense that tells them what is good for them, what is innately good for them: The food habits; the way we should sleep; that Yoga is good for keeping us young & active; that a hobby fulfills us; that we can utilize every minute of the day towards preparing our self for something ; perfecting our talents helps us reach our maximum capacity; that introspecting our actions & thoughts gives us insight; and patience is an art which is learned; all these conveyed to us through just a feeling or gut or intuition , whatever we may call it. Yet we stick to our habits, or the way things are or just plain go against what we feel, slowing making us lose our chance for doing things right. We always procrastinate thinking “there is a tomorrow” and that we have all the time in the world to listen to that inner calling asking us to attend to what we need instead of just surviving.

There is a black hole of dissatisfaction in all of us and a nagging voice of displeasure telling us what we have lost or what could have been or just that it’s not too late. Every one of us brushes it aside except a few and tells our self that something else is more important. We convey these inner turmoil by taking it out on the world, the next person sitting in the office, the wife or husband when we get back home, children if you have any, parents if you still live with them or our closest friends who stick to our side no matter how hurt they are simply because they think you are having a bad day. Yet what if that bad day continues every day? Then you might find yourself alone someday because ‘every one has been given a 6th or 7th sense that tells them what is good for them, what is innately good for them’, and you are not good for them any more.

You should not live your parent’s life, your partner’s life, your children’s life, what you should live is “Your Life”, and your life means fulfilling those inner voices telling you what is right, and what is good for you and not what is good for the other person because you don’t know that. The greater good is just an illusion because if you are not happy with yourself, then you definitely can’t make the other person sharing your life as a friend, life partner or just ‘a person you know’ happy.

Life doesn’t give too many choices and when the time is gone to make those changes, there is no use regretting, as life is as short as you make it or as long as you break it.